This is probably one of the hardest things to do. Sometimes it feels like a drug when you are with a man that you really like and feel chemistry and you know he is not really good for you and it is hard to end it. You tell yourself you will not see this man anymore. The man that cancels at the last minute, does not treat you right, states he does not want a commitment and then calls you out of the blue for a date. And what do we do, we end up going back with this man and for a while it feels good and you are having fun and then he just does the same thing he did before and we are right back to where we were crying, sad and confused.
How do we end this madness?
It might take some radical moves here. And you have to remember that this is for the good of you.
1. First you tell him it is over and to please do not contact you anymore. He is not giving you what you truly desire in a relationship and you are moving on. Thank you and it was fun. But it is not a right fit.
2. And now no contact, I mean none what so ever. No emails, no text, remove from Facebook and other social media, and no phone calls.
3. If he tries to text you or call, remind him to not call you anymore. Then you may need to block his number and emails. I remember I was dating a man I was crazy about for over 2 years and he clearly did not want a commitment. He told me. But I ignored it hoping it would change. He would call and I would just go running to see him and then end up crying later when I did not hear from him after 2-3 weeks. And after working on myself and learning to honor me and what I truly desired, I blocked his number. It was big decision. I felt scared to do it and felt a revelation at same time. I was doing something good for me and I was drawing the line in the sand that I was not going to do this anymore.
4. Be busy! Go out with friends, make new friends, take up a course, start your bucket list and start crossing off the list, go on meetups, and take care of YOU!
5. If you are ready, start online dating and just go and have fun on dates. Meet NEW MEN!
6. And lastly, work on you and release the baggage, hit the reset button and redefine you as the woman that is worthy to have the relationships she deserves. If you would like to learn more on how you can be confident to stand up for what you want, lets set up a time to chat.
Much love
Kim
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