You go on a date and you are wondering to yourself: Is this going to be another player? How can I avoid getting seduced by one again?
I read this book: The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating by David Buss who did extensive scientific research and revealed men show display strategies in dating and courting. “Display Strategies” are rituals in effective seduction in animal mating. And even though we are in the 21st century, we instinctually act like cave man courting cave women. Men will show certain “Display Strategies” depending on what type of mating he wants, either casual or permanent. And this is done instinctually on how they are thinking. So it is up to us as women to be aware of this and if you are looking for a committed relationship be looking for men that are displaying those strategies.
Male Display Strategies for Attracting Casual Sex Partners:
Display Wealth and willingness to part with it
Flashing Money
Buying Gifts
Overly Self Confident
Take You Out to an Expensive Restaurant and gives big tips
Wear Expensive Clothes
Buys mix drinks
Calling the shots
Acting Macho
Be seen as being wanted by other women
Having a nice car
Showing Off
Flexing muscles and bragging about his physique and will suck in his stomach
Boasting
Male Display Strategies for Attracting Permanent Partners:
Show the potential for having resources and describe ambitions goals
Still sucking in his stomach and wear expensive clothes
They are polite and considerate
Shows love, commitment and devotion
Discusses long term relationships and marriage
Show deep concern for your problems and sensitivity to your needs
Show he will be there for you in time of need
Showing persistence and willingness to sacrifice his time to pursue you
Show he is helpful (opening doors, sitting down last, fixing stuff)
Shows kindness
Being protective of you
Being vulnerable and sharing himself
Showing loyalty
Saying “I love you”
Do these things really work? Research of 100 newlywed women confirmed these displays were used by their husbands 100% of the time during courtship.
And I have to tell you, my fiancé did the displays for a permanent partner. And when I look back I can clearly see the ones that were looking for something casual.
This is very valuable information to be on the look out!
Also, one more strategy is a male providing food and showing he is good hunter, so if he is willing to pay, then allow him to do that. If you don’t, you will sabotage the ritual.
Happy Dating!
