A lot of women ask me about dating and why is it so confusing and frustrating.   Why hasn’t he called me back?  Should I text him?   Why can’t he call me in advance to ask me out on a weekend night?  Or you may be asking yourself “He has all these boxes checked except this one thing and I don’t know what to do.”

I completely know this because I was in that same place.  And this is what can drive you very crazy and just want to give up in dating and love.  It seems so hard and frustrating.

And you are reading all the dating advice, listening to podcast, and all the online information and love seems so elusive.

And here it is, I am going to break it down for you and if you do this one thing, it will make a world of difference for you.

You need to be very clear in what you want in a relationship.  Figure out what you truly want first.  And you might have made the list of requirement of what you think you want, but it might not be what you deeply desire.  It maybe be  based upon “what you think you should have.”    This “what you think you should have” is based upon media and there romantic stories, our parents, friends and schooling.  And oh yes, the Cinderella fantasy story of my prince coming to save me.

It is not about you being saved.  It is about you having an equal relationship and amazing and harmonious partnership.

What do you really deep down want based upon your true self?  What are your true needs in a relationship?  What will a relationship do for you?   What do you want it to look and feel like?  What are your feelings in this relationship?

We have clarity of what we want in a relationship based upon our values and what is important to us.  And this starts with loving yourself and being authentic, real and that you are worthy to have it.

Are you looking for someone that can make your feel better about yourself?   Someone that will put a bit of happiness in your life where you are not feeling so complete?  Or an equal partner that you both enhance each other’s lives and have this adventure and romance and love?

You have been pushing your feelings down for so long.  Isn’t it time you start to honor you and your feelings and what is important to you?

You will never feel confused when you know yourself deeply, what you desire and that you can have that.

If you find yourself confused about finding love, dating or currently with a man right now – Stop and take some time to have the clarity.   When you are not clear, is when the men show up that are unclear and confused also.  You will always mirror what you yourself are being.

And I tell you that you deserve to be in a healthy relationship, two equals, a man showing up loving and cherishing you.   And you do this with clarity and love for yourself.

Does that make sense?